What Helps?
It can sometimes feel like you need tightrope walking lessons! There is no secret formula for this process. What helps is a balance between being interested, supportive and caring on the one hand, and leaving them alone, trusting and giving space on the other. It's OK to be curious or concerned, but try not to be intrusive or blaming.
You will need to use your best communication skills - like listening, asking open questions, checking out, respecting their point of view and giving positive feedback. All this even if your uni student doesn't reply with similar levels of skill and fairness.
Don't be too upset if they don't want to spend much time with the family. Many uni students see dependence as negative and strive for independence, so take full advantage of any time they do want to spend with you. The most important thing is to be there for them. Your uni student still needs to feel connected and valued in the family.
If you notice things aren't going right, or you start to worry, there are people and places to help you and your student.
Because this is a very big transition time for all of you, it's often hard to work out what's normal and what's not. If moods or behaviours seem more serious, extreme or get beyond your comfort or tolerance levels, it's best to seek advice.
Talking to your uni student about what you see and what you are concerned about, and asking their opinion on what you've noticed, is important.
You are welcome to consult with any of the university support services. Your local GPs, Counsellors, Community Health Centres or Mental Health Clinics can also be helpful.