Beginning a Sexual Relationship
If you're starting to feel attracted to someone, but don't really know what either you or they think just yet, simply expressing the desire to be with them and being good company is a good start.
Consider: would it be better if you just remained as friends? Are you reading the body language correctly? Maybe you're making assumptions about the other person's feelings.
Are you really looking for a partner, or just feeling uncomfortable or worried that it's not going to happen, so just going along with something, or settling for less? Are you reacting to pressure from friends to be sexually active, or to have a relationship - any sort of relationship?
Are you being led into something you don't really want, or starting something that the other person doesn't really want? Maybe you need to change, or at least examine, your behaviour and expectations. There may be a need to look at how good you are at asserting yourself, or considering the needs of others. If things don't seem to be going right, please feel free to call the Counselling Service.
It's a good idea to ask about the other person's sexual history, and be prepared to answer the same questions, too. How about safe sex? STDs and unexpected pregnancies aren't a good idea, are they? Sex is about fun and pleasure, after all, but there's a lot to consider.