Speaking to your Partner

After you have sorted out your own feelings about sex, discuss them openly with your partner. Remember not to feel pressured when making this big decision-not everyone is having sex. There is less harm done by waiting than by rushing into a sexual relationship too soon.

When deciding whether or not you want to have sex, it is important to feel confident that you are not putting yourself at risk of contracting a STI. You have the right to ask your partner questions about her/his sexual history. Approach these questions with your partner sensitively.

•  How many sexual partners have you had?
•  Have you ever had unprotected sex with a partner?
•  Have you ever been tested for STIs?
•  Are you willing to be tested for STIs?
•  Have you ever used injection drugs? Did you ever share needles?
•  Have you considered what you would do if sexual activity resulted in an unplanned pregnancy?